Blended Orgasms: What They Are and How to Have Them

A blended orgasm is defined as a clitoral and vaginal orgasm that happens at the same time. So, yes, it’s technically two simultaneous orgasms that tend to result in a more intense, full-body response.

This means the first step of having a blended orgasm is being able to stimulate both the clitoris and vagina at the same time, which isn’t as hard as it sounds.

First, you need to understand how vaginal and clitoral orgasms work.

Vaginal orgasms usually involve hitting the G-spot, which is located on the inner wall of the vagina. Stimulating the G-spot with regular pressure can lead to orgasm.

Researchers have also found via ultrasound that the G-spot is likely so sensitive because it’s part of the clitoral network: the clitoral root is located right behind the anterior vaginal wall. So, hitting the G-spot can also stimulate part of the clitoris.

For a clitoral orgasm, orgasms occur when pressure and repetitive motion are applied to a wet (often achieved with lube) clitoris. The clitoris is a nerve-filled organ located at the top of the vulva that extends down inside the labia. It’s larger than assumed.

The repetitive up and down or circular motion to achieve orgasm can be done using (wet) fingers, palm, or tongue, depending on what your partner prefers.

A blended orgasm can be summarized as ah-mazing — and more intense than just vaginal or clitoral orgasms alone.

Since both the vagina and clitoris are both being stimulated, a blended orgasm may trigger anything from involuntary movements that mimic convulsion to female ejaculation in some cases. (This happens when the G-spot is stimulated, causing the Skene’s glands on either side of the urethra to also be stimulated.)

But you should also know what clitoral and vaginal orgasms may look or feel like on their own:

• Clitoral orgasms are often felt on the surface of the body, like a tingly feeling along your skin and in your brain.
• Vaginal orgasms are deeper in the body and can be felt by the person penetrating the vagina because the vaginal walls will pulse.

No orgasm is the same, though. How your body lets go can range from a soft sigh to a powerful release. When it comes to chasing orgasms, it’s best not to have sex with an end goal in mind.

But if you feel comfortable with your partner and want to have a go at a blended orgasm, read on for some some tips.

Even if you know how to get yourself off both ways, a blended orgasm is going to take practice. Some tips? Relax and go in with the intention of achieving pleasure and not specifically a type of orgasm.

Don’t feel like you need to start by stimulating both the G-spot and clitoris at the same time, either. If one part takes longer to peak, focus there first. And in the case of first-timers, time is also your friend (don’t plan on rushing to work after!).

Solo

To achieve a blended orgasm on your own, start vaginally by finding the G-spot:

1. Using your fingers or a sex toy, lift upward toward your belly button in a “come hither” motion.
2. Repeat the motion as the sensation builds, and — instead of an in-and-out movement — you’ll want to keep focusing your attention on this area.
3. With your other hand, start to work the clitoris. If you need to add lube, go for it!
4. Apply fast and hard pressure in a repetitive motion using your fingers or palm, moving back and forth or circular.

Vibrators are also a great way to stimulate your G-spot and clitoris, especially if reaching both seems like a lot of work.

Partnered

If you have a partner, you can tell them the best way to reach your G-spot is with hands first. Mimic that “come hither” motion toward your belly button before any type of penetration begins.

Your partner can also use their mouth and tongue to stimulate the clitoris. They can start kissing the area, then use the tip of their tongue to lick, starting slow and increasing speed and pressure as well as movement, like up and down or circular.

During penetration, one of the best positions to achieve clitoral stimulation is called the “riding high” position.

To try this, lie on your back. Your partner should angle their penis or sex toy so the upper shaft rubs against your clitoris as they thrust. Each thrust should slide your hood up and down, or provide enough pressure over the hood to stimulate your clitoris.

Remember, every body is different. If these popular sex positions don’t work, there are always small alterations you can try to hit the right spots.

Also, no pressure for your blended orgasm to be clitoral and vaginal at the same time. In our book, any combo of orgasm (be it anal or even nipple!) is a pleasure win.

A 2016 study found that on average, 54 percent of women achieve orgasm through clitoral and vaginal stimulation, compared to 34 percent who orgasmed via only clitoral stimulation and 6 percent who orgasmed via only vaginal stimulation.

And first-timers? Trust your gut: You know the difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms.

According to a 2016 review on the history of clitoral and vaginal orgasms, two studies done in the 1970s found that sexually active women did know the difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms.

Through self-reported accounts, the women described a clitoral orgasm as “localized, intense and physically satisfying, whereas a vaginal orgasm was described as stronger and longer lasting than clitoral orgasm, ‘deeper,’ a ‘whole body’ sensation with throbbing feelings, and more psychologically satisfying.”

Now imagine how both happening at the same time.

Emily Shiffer is a former digital web producer for Men’s Health and Prevention, and is currently a freelance writer specializing in health, nutrition, weight loss, and fitness. She is based in Pennsylvania and loves all things antiques, cilantro, and American history.